Stress - It's Personal

  • Post by James Sumo
  • Jun 03, 2018
Stress - It's Personal

Stress and anxiety - It’s Personal

Tension is Personal

Stress and anxiety is the mix of 3 things: (1) a prospective stress factor, (2) what your mind tells you concerning it, specifically the danger, injury, or loss it provides, and also (3) a stress and anxiety action that kicks in if your mind informs you that you can not handle the hazard, injury, or loss.

Besides comprehending the multi-dimensional nature of stress and anxiety, the greatest thing to eliminate from viewing anxiety by doing this is realizing how subjective as well as personal stress and anxiety truly is. What tensions you could be totally different from what worries your good friend, your spouse, or a close member of the family. What you deem a risk, damage, or loss, might be absolutely benign to others. This is why you require to create your own individual stress and anxiety profile if you are severe concerning beginning to manage your stress and anxiety.

Your Personal Tension Account

Your individual tension account combines your possible stressors, the unique method your mind sees them, the physical and psychological symptoms that begin when you are stressed out, and also your personal repertoire of dealing abilities. Because no two people have the same stress and anxiety accounts you can’t just use somebody else’ information as well as anticipate it to help you. You can not get this details from reading a publication, or having me or anyone else tell you what it is.

To create your personal tension profile you have to begin maintaining a Stress factor Journal as well as track this info on your own. Basically, this is your individual stress data base as well as is special to you. You need to keep this journal for a minimum of five days a week for a minimum of a month. This will give you the bare minimum of data to collaborate with to begin handling your tension. It will certainly likewise offer you adequate time to begin determining patterns and also patterns in your stress and anxiety.

Stressor Journal Workout

Objective: The complying with exercise, My Individual Stress Journal, is designed to help you determine your possible stress factors, just how your mind views them, your individual tension action, as well as the performance of your coping. It will likewise make clear the psychological and also physical indicators stress that your individual anxiety feedback triggers.


  1. Start maintaining this journal tomorrow.

  2. Keep the journal at least five days a week for a minimum of one month.

  3. Turn the 5 days so both weekdays as well as weekend breaks are accounted for.

  4. Keep this in whatever format you want; digital, lined paper, bound journal and so on

  5. Load it in whenever it is hassle-free for you; as they take place, at the end of the day, initial point in the morning, etc.

  6. Do not allow greater than a day pass when videotaping a stress factor. This will maintain the details of it from blurring.


a. Day & Day: list the day of the week and also the day.

b. Prospective Stress factor: describe the prospective stressor in one sentence.

c. Ideas concerning the hazard, damage, loss: define what your mind tells you concerning the possible stress factor that is threatening, hazardous, or loss producing.

d. Intensity: on a scale of 1-10 (10= greatest), price the strength of the threat, damage, or loss you feel in response to the possible stress factor.

e. Physical Reaction: describe the physical sensations in your body when subjected to the possible stress factor.

f. Emotional Action: describe the emotions you really feel when subjected to the possible stressor.

g. Perceived Ability to Cope: on a scale of 1-10 rate your ability to cope with the possible stress factor.

h. Coping Skill Made use of: explain what you did to cope with the potential stress factor as well as whether or not it functioned.


a. Day & Date: Wednesday, September 14th

b. Prospective Stress factor: Reviewing the Jolley Bridge on your return house to Marco Island complying with Hurricane Irma.

c. Ideas about the hazard, harm or loss: “I have no concept what I will encounter when we reach our home. I can not stand this unpredictability. This is extremely threatening.”

d. Strength: 9

e. Physical Feedback: I really felt tightness in my breast and had difficulty breathing.

f. Emotional Response: I really felt extremely anxious. I couldn’t stop my mind from believing the most awful.

g. Viewed capability to cope: 3

h. Coping Ability Used: I tried to do some deep breathing and also change my interest off of what may be incorrect with my home. This worked OK until I obtained home.

After maintaining your stress factor journal for at the very least a few weeks you can start to search for patterns in: (1) your possible stressors, (2) your self-talk regarding risk, (3) you individual stress and anxiety feedback, and (4) your coping performance.

Equipped with this info you can start to be much more pro-active in handling your stress and anxiety. You can target any kind of component of the anxiety feedback. Understanding what your most threatening prospective stress factors are you can find out techniques for decreasing them or altering the way you consider them. You can utilize your mental and also physical tension symptoms as red flags that reveal you that you are worried and also need to do something to relax as well as set off a relaxation action. If you lack coping sources you can find out new methods to deal and construct an extra stress-resistant way of life.

What many people that deal with me say is that in the beginning they often tend to overestimate the hazard, harm, as well as loss related to their individual stressors and undervalue their capacity to deal. By the end of our time together they recall at their journals and laugh at some of the things they rated 8’s, 9’s and 10’s that they currently would certainly classify as 3’s, 4’s, as well as 5’s. Equipped with this kind of understanding as well as a host of brand-new coping skills they learned from me they report that they now much more accurately approximate just how intimidating their potential stressors are as well as their capacity to cope with them.

So, start keeping your Stress factor Journal as well as creating your Personal Tension Profile. As you understand your anxiety more you will certainly have the ability to tailor coping techniques to fit your individual demands.

Dr Rich Blonna is a professional in recognizing how the mind and body collaborate in developing and taking care of tension. He is the author of a number of stress self-help publications and courses and also the prominent university book, Managing Tension in an Altering Globe 5th Ed; McGraw-Hill Publishing. He is a retired Professor Emeritus from William Paterson College in NJ. Learn more: